When we are talking about topics like "relating to women", or "how to relate to women" or "Can you relate to women?", I usually get asked regarding the best way to begin getting physical with a girl that you have known as a pal for awhile.
Getting physical is something that usually occurs naturally between a guy and a girl more than a three month period unless of course one or both of them is really uncomfortable on disinterested.
When a man is not comfortable with approaching a woman for a physical relationship, the main thing that a man could do to deal with that is learn to observe and use gradients.
Exactly what are gradients? Gradients are just like steps on a ladder that you climb to get to the top. Some guys may try to head to the top level of the ladder without ascending any of the steps. And that makes the girl uncomfortable and also the guy.
A man who is uncomfortable in this area should learn both how to recognize gradients when women make use of them and the way to make use of gradients on women.
Not all women will begin at the same gradient. Some women will start with a kiss after a first date, and move up steadily or swiftly from there - from kissing, to making out, to petting, to heavy petting and lastly to sexual relations. If a man tries to leap to the "sexual relations" step without going through the other gradients, he might just lose the girl. Conversely, you can lose a girl because you are moving up the gradients too slowly.
Now other girls won't even be up to the gradient of giving you a goodnight kiss till the seventh date. Gradients for her could be: getting to know you, talking about sexual subjects indirectly (for instance commiserating about an ex-boyfriend), accidental touch (bumping into you as you walk), purposeful little touches to your arm or leg, holding onto your arm while you go walking, holding your hand, after which a goodnight kiss.
If you are uncomfortable with this area and wish to get physical with a girl, flirt with her, romance her, notice where she is on the gradients of sexual contact, then lead her up the gradients gently. As long as you don't skip way too many gradients, if she is interested, she will move up the gradients swiftly or gradually depending on her personality.
If she is not interested, she probably won't move up. Try lowering the gradient and if she still doesn't move up, try talking about it. Ask her if she is interested in a relationship with you or if she only wants to be friends.
Also remember that most girls won't go out on a "date" with you unless of course they are already vaguely fine with the concept of getting physical with you. Thus you may need to clarify if you are dating or just "hanging out."
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